This post is the ninth and final in a series of posts about the MAPP Gathering, a web-based interview series on Motherhood, Ambition, Passion and Purpose.
In particular Kelly and the host, Lisa, were talking about the becoming moms. Kelly talked about how being a mom wasn't something that came naturally to her. It wasn't like she just instantly knew exactly what to do and how to do it best. Me too! She also talked about how she felts this internal pressure to suddenly be perfect at everything. She felt like she was supposed to be cleaning everything perfectly, cooking fabulous meals, being the perfect wife, making her husband happy, doing the laundry, raising her children, working a job, etc. Me too! Suddenly she was supposed to don a cape and become super woman - the image of perfection. And this was all something she put on herself. Me too!!!
And then Lisa said something that really struck a chord with me - Perfectionism may be a response to us trying to control a situation that we have no control over. Wham! Wow did that one hit me. Yes! I have no control over being a mom a lot of the time. I can't control my children because they are their own little people with their own minds who make their own decisions! And that's scary! And so maybe if I'm the perfect mother - I clean the house, I make the meals, I go to work, I smile, I do it all, it will all work out great. No one will hurt them. They won't cry. They won't get in trouble. Birds will sing. Rainbows will appear. Yada yada yada. It all kind of made sense.
While I've definitely let go of many of those perfectionistic tendencies since my children have arrive (frankly, I've just admitted defeat!), I still find myself from time to time working on making the impossible possible. At least now I have an idea why.
If you'd like to tune in and listen to this interview, head over to the MAPP Gathering and take a listen. And let me know what you thought too.
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