(Be forewarned... Mommy is a little fired up over this one.)
There is a law in Michigan that says that unmarried people can't jointly adopt. This means that if you are a gay couple, a lesbian couple, or a straight couple who want to adopt a baby, but who aren't married - you can't do that as a couple. You can adopt the children as a single person, but only one of you has the right to do that... not both.
What kind of messed up world do we live in? How is this possible that two people who are committed to each other and love each other can't get married let alone can't adopt a baby together? I hate that our country tries to govern who can love each other among consenting adults.
What kind of logic does this law make anyway? It's ok for a single mother to adopt you, but not two women who are committed to each other? Only one of them can be legally responsible for you?
Fortunately there are two women in Michigan who have filed a a federal lawsuit challenging this law and their eligibility to adopt three children they have been foster parents for - jointly. And they must be undergoing a terrible struggle. I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like to be in their shoes. One of the women has already adopted one of the children, and the other woman adopted the other two. But they'd like to jointly adopt all three. This doesn't seem unreasonable to me at all. In fact, it sounds pretty damn wonderful. You can read the full story here.
What if one of them should die? Wouldn't it be better for that child to them have that second parent as a legal parent? Or what if one is sick? Or unable to make it to the hospital quickly should the child get injured or sick?
I hope, and am sure, that I will see the day when these sorts of antiquated laws are overturned and we finally allow gay/lesbian marriage and unmarried/joint adoption everywhere. Until then, to those of you out there affected by these laws - I'm so sorry that there are people in our country who are idiots. And I'm backing you in your fight.